Living the Sacred Feminine: Rebuilding the Earth Lodge

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Earth Lodge Altar – August, 2018

When I was in my 20’s, I realized that I had come here this lifetime to explore one major question and that question was: What is it to be woman? And especially, what is it to be a woman at this time in history?

Being born female into a culture that valued and was largely a reflection of the gifts and principles of The Masculine was a strange and confusing experience to me, first as a young child and later as a young woman.  The world that women were allowed to move in felt constrained and limited to territories (homemaker, nursing and teaching) that I wasn’t particularly interested in at that time of my life. To me, the worlds that were open to males felt way more interesting, exciting and “free”.  I wondered…Where, in this culture, does someone like me fit? Or do I fit anyplace?

I was lucky in that I was born on a farm and allowed to be what is now called a “free range child.”  Home was a safe place.  I was free to wander the hundreds of acres on our farm, even as a young child. It’s not that my parents believed that was the best way to parent, it was simply how things were done on the farm.  I was free to explore and be who I was – even as I wasn’t sure just who or what I was or where or how I fit in to the contemporary society of my childhood.

In 8thgrade, I went from being the only kid in my class at the one-room (K to 8thgrade) country school that I had attended, to being one of 60+ students in my class.  It was there that I ran into the societal walls that prescribed the behavior that was appropriate (or inappropriate) for women, with the emphasis being largely on what was inappropriate which I interpreted to mean “If you wish to ‘fit in’, you must learn to contain and restrain yourself from fully expressing who you really are.”  To not do so, was to be banished to the realm of those who “didn’t belong”.

The next 10 years of my life, were spent feeling one way on the inside and living differently on the outside in an attempt to “fit in” while feeling increasingly alienated from who I really was and the culture in which I lived.

Fast forward in time, through graduating from college, giving birth to my first daughter, joining the Peace Corps, marriage, moving to California, beginning an academic career at the University of California, Santa Cruz, traveling the world, having my second daughter, getting divorced, returning to my career at UC Santa Cruz, a second marriage, leaving UC Santa Cruz, commuting to NY to work,  another child, another divorce, working with the International Center for Organization Design, meeting FireHawk and finally meeting The Origin Teachings of the Delicate Lodge and the two people who became my first teachers:  WindEagle and RainbowHawk.

Ehama Institute in Germany – Circa 1998

Fundamental principles, natural laws grounded in thousands of years of observation and exploration became the ground through which I explored that original question of “What is it for me Pele, to be a woman.” Only this time, I lived into the questions in an experiential, everyday way of living through the lens of indigenous wisdom that I had previously only explored in an academic way at the University.

Fundamental principles became clear.   For there to be peace within ourselves and on earth, the masculine and feminine aspects of who we each are must be in balance both within ourselves and in the larger cultures within which we live.  The earth is a plane of duality and the gifts of difference, the gifts of all duality, including male and female, of the feminine and the masculine are the loom upon which we weave reality.

I came to understand my life
(and all human life)
as an Invitation from Life itself

Express your sacred essence as women and as men.
Weave an exquisite co-creative dance
A dance capable of embodying
the unique and limitless ways
in which the beauty and power
of the feminine and masculine aspects
in each of us
can come together
this life time.

My work with the medicine wheel teachings has always been both personal and transpersonal.  My life long exploration of “What is it for me, Pele, to be a woman?”  later became “Who are WE as women?” and what is the essence of what it is to be an earthly expression of the feminine face of The Divine, of Great Spirit, of Creator?

As I have watched my 3 daughters grow and make their way in the world, each one blazing different paths than the ones available to me at their age, I am struck by the grand opening now for the flowering of the Sacred Feminine (and the Sacred Masculine) and for deep and lasting intergenerational healing and growth.

My pledge to my daughters is to play my part by giving back the Teachings that I was given so that my grandchildren (now 9 young souls and counting) can each fulfill their destiny as sacred human beings.

I ask myself and others, how do we address the imbalance of the masculine and feminine energies in the world in ways that bring joy, harmony, hope and a new expression of a planetary culture in which men and women enjoy equal respect and there is a universal acceptance and understanding of the gifts each brings to life?

Ohki Simine Forest  –

Enter the concept of Women as Stewards of the Earth Lodge and Men as Stewards of the Sky Lodge. This concept, first expressed to me in a talk and later in person by Ohki Siminé Forest, (a Canadian woman of Mohawk descent who works with The Maya in Chiapas, Mexico) took root in my heart and mind as a way to help create the world in which we all long to live – a world of peace, of wholeness and balance.

I began to imagine the Earth Lodge as a Sacred “Home”, an ongoing, alive, earthly container and expression of the sacred gifts of the Feminine and the Sky Lodge as a Sacred “Home”, an ongoing, earthly expression for the sacred gifts of the Masculine.  And I also began to wonder what would an Earth Lodge and what would a Sky Lodge be like at this time on earth?

(Rather than speak more in depth about the Earth Lodge and Sky Lodge, you can download a pdf file here which contains key aspects of Ohki’s talk describing the Earth Lodge and Sky Lodge.)

Note:  The essence of the importance of The Earth Lodge and the Sky Lodge to me is that it is one way to explore how we, as a culture, can build organizational structures that support The Two Sacred Laws: (All things are born of woman. And No law shall be passed that will harm the children.) while recognizing and respecting the sacred duality of Masculine and Feminine energies within each of us.

Earth Lodge – August, 2018

In August, we (Lana Holmes and I) held our first ceremony in the Santa Cruz Mountains of Northern California for women interested in exploring Rebuilding the Earth Lodge for these times on earth. It was a profound and powerful ceremony.

The Earth Lodge and The Sky Lodge as an on-going, sacred, mystical , unfolding dance of co-creation.  May it be so!

Pele Rouge has spent much of her life exploring the sacred inter-relatedness of all of Life. She fell In love with and became a carrier of an ancient body of Earth Wisdom Teachings after completing an eight-year formal apprenticeship with WindEagle and RainbowHawk, co-founders of Ehama Institute, based in New Mexico. These powerful Earth Wisdom Teachings are designed to foster wholeness and balance within the self and all aspects of life.

Working in tandem with her husband FireHawk, and her growing community of powerful women allies, she has brought these teachings into a wide variety of individual and organizational settings in the U.S. and Europe. At the heart of Pele’s passionate journey is her love of co-creating sacred ceremonial space in which people can gather to “do their work.”

If you are interested in joining our ongoing exploration of the Earth Lodge and the Sky Lodge, please contact us: Pele Rouge (pelerouge@timelessearthwisdom.comand Lana  Holmes (

  1. Dear Pele,
    I feel such a resonance with your life journey…a mirror of mine in many ways. I am so grateful that our paths touched…briefly yet potently. Thank you for sharing your story and for continuing to teach, model and remind us all of what is truly important, sacred and healing. May you shine brightly for many years to come! With so much love…

    • Bayla…I am touched by and honored to receive your words. You and Raven stay nestled in my heart and mind as you do the work that is yours to do where you live. It brightens my days to watch your journeys from afar. I hold the intention to one day spend time in person with you both, sharing the stories and insights from our journeys. It is an amazing time to be human upon earth!

  2. Dearest Madam Pele Rouge,

    Question: What is your preferred pronoun? You, the one with the Red Dress on… 🙂

    I cannot help but to expand upon what has been spoken. You epitomize one who consciously embodies the feminine and the masculine – simultaneously, naturally, easily, blending and flowing through your veins, words and actions. If what I am saying is true – then me thinks you asked your young question only as a service to others, because I see you have long known this place beyond gender.

    Thank you for the magnificent modeling you bring!
    Much Love,

    • RedHeart…I will respond to your question within the warm energetic I perceive that it was asked. First of all, your question about which pronoun I preferred, made me smile. And that always is a good thing!

      I don’t have a “preferred pronoun”. I find it much more interesting to hear and experience the variety of pronouns that others might use to describe me. They become a multi-faceted mirror in which I can see aspects of myself that might otherwise be invisible to me, at any moment in time.

      I believe each of us is being asked to broaden the boundaries of who we understand and believe ourselves to be. I see it as a needed “evolutionary update” – to loosen the fixed boundaries (that no longer serve us – or life) in which we have lived and perceived one another. As those boundaries morph, the doors slowly open to a wider and deeper understanding of what it can be, to be a human on earth. And for me, a greater compassion for all humans (including myself) is a natural result of loosening my own previously- fixed boundaries . Thank you for the question.

  3. Dear Pele Rouge

    Your bright Fire is a Beacon for all of us who have had the privilege of sharing the journey with the Delicate Lodge Teachings over the years. Thank You for sharing your journey.

    I love the image of the ‘free range child’ which reminds me of my own time with my grandparents on their farm.

    The photo of 1998 (how young you all look) reminds me that that was the year of the UK ceremony in Wales on the windy rainy mountain top in July!!.

    I appreciate so much being part of your / my journey, so many teachings and wonderful memories. Love PriarieDancer

    • Prairie Dancer, I experience you as a brother to me. Our lives and paths have been joined by our love of The Medicine Wheel Teachings. And “yes”, the journey began in the beautiful lands of the Scottish Highlands and has moved from there to shores of the lands of the U.S. and now into the virtual lands of connection made possible by Zoom. How fortunate are we to be alive in this time.

      We certainly were younger when we met and now, I trust we all have become wiser, more seasoned by life and have even more to contribute to life. Big Hugs, Pele

  4. Dearest Pele
    Thank you for bringing the light of your wisdom to shine on me this day. If feel warmed by the generousity of your sharing and enlivened by the potential you speak of. Particularly you recognition of our daughters who carry the seeds of this potential within 21st Century living. A deep bow of gratitude.

    • Thank you StarSong for the reminder. Each generation of women creates new ground for the coming generations to walk upon. They need our support, wisdom and encouragement. It is a time for all of us to hold one another in supportive relationship. May it be so.

  5. Dear Pele,
    I will always remember being seen by you and EagleWoman that first Solstice many years ago. It was like visiting another planet. An Avatar moment and I see you too. You have my Great Auntie Sybil’s hairstyle, an English governess from Brighton, school teacher to Dutch farming families in South Africa, Librarian and school teacher in Mill Valley. Someone who got lost in Yosemite in her 80’s in nothing but her green Brtish farm suit. The only one who spoke to me as an adult when I was a baby unable to talk yet and the strongest woman I have ever met in my life. i see you being the divine feminine with the divine masculine Firehawk and I just bask in your presence. Love, Spyrock Pondtender

    • Spyrock…I remember the first time we sat around the fire at a Moon Ceremony gathering many years ago. You were with the woman, White Lightning Dove, who became your beloved partner in life. Those of us in the circle that evening were treated to the first of countless stories you have shared over the years. Your stories always delight us and leave us wondering where you are going to go this time! Keep telling your stories! They carry powerful medicine. And thank you for your kind words.

  6. Dearest Pele for me you epitomise what is needed from the feminine in the world today. There is no question that as a society we are hopelessly out of balance with many two legged ‘s having no concept of what balance means, or is about. The masculine is not currently capable of restoring that balance. We must turn to the glue that holds our delicate society together. You represent that balance between the two worlds. Keep flying higher dear sister.

    • Ah OtterDivingDeep…I so agree that the feminine aspects of life (and ourselves) must take the lead right now in order to re-balance all that is out of balance. For the first time in my life, I sense that the first Sacred Law (All things are born of woman.) is reaching a tipping point where the conditions that have allowed life itself to come into form, have been so transgressed that the ability of life on earth to perpetuate itself is in danger.

      Thank you for all you do to restore balance on earth.

      • Otter Diving Deep…I am always looking or the simplicity that lies on the other side of whatever complexity is present in the moment. Your words remind me that it is my belief that one of the most powerful things we as humans could do right now to “right’ the imbalance that is present on earth is to consider all of the decisions and “laws” we make within the context of the Two Sacred Laws: does this action allow life to continue to come into form on earth and does it protect and nurture the forms of life that are already present on earth. I honor the work that you have been doing for so many years that honors the Two Sacred Laws and builds for the future within the ground of those laws.

  7. Dear Pele,
    I am and have been so touched to see and feel the depth of the journey you have walked and what you so beautifully describe as the dance of the feminine and masculine and the Earth Lodge and the Sky Lodge. This theme of co creation has been and continues to be one of the greatest calls in this time. My dream is that your work will touch more and more and ripple out across the earth… helping us remember how to find the way to the balance the world seeks. The beauty you create is stunning… a powerful touching of the soul. Thank you for all you are and all you offer into this time. You are a true blessing.

    • Thank you for your kind words WindEagle. My life journey has been into the deep aspects of both the masculine and feminine that reside within me and within each of us. They keep things very alive and exciting and provide a never ending path of growth and learning.
      With Abiding Love, Pele

  8. Dear Pele, Thank you for dedicating your life to the question, what does it mean for you, Pele, to be a woman? Your life a gift – thank you! Your learning a key to who we are as a loving generative people for these times. Beauty and Power must come together to reconcile, balance, and co-create with Life if we as a planet and people are to survive this great turning. As in from Love, bless us all in dancing our part to balance with the great Mystery! Love

    • You say it so well Vicki…Beauty and Power must come together in service to life. I know your work in the world is in service to this reconciliation as well. Sending Love, Pele


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